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It’s Anti Bullying Week and I believe it’s important to shine a light on the less obvious cases of bullying that takes place, particularly in the workplace.   When you’re a young, teenage girl growing up, some of the experiences you have with the other girls around you are quite frankly, shocking! Girls can be […]

I tell you what, I’m at the puking stage of all the codswallop manifestation bollocks that is flooding my feed lately from a bunch of unqualified riff raff calling themselves coaches.   I can’t be doing with all this airy fairy, pink and fluffy, woo woo shit (my coach calls it woo woo – it […]

What? You want me to be vulnerable? But that’s just for weak and wimpy people isn’t it? You couldn’t be more wrong. Being vulnerable is the new super power for those who want to be their own hero and take ownership for creating the life they dream of. Here’s the thing.   It’s liberating – […]

Why am I blogging about envy? Well, I’ve experienced it myself quite a lot lately. Here am I working hard to get the business I’m hugely passionate about off the ground (any help gratefully received btw – just hit share on this post, job done!) and yet I feel encompassed by others speeding past me […]

Have you been watching Wanderlust? If not, where have you been? I’m finding this series captivating and intriguing as it examines a 20 year relationship going a bit flat, the couple then deciding to have an open relationship and seek sex outside of the marriage. I’m no prude but I’ve found it a bit cringey […]

If you’re one of the many people who find themselves super busy every day at work, with back to back meetings, conference call central, emails coming out of your ears, lunch on the hoof and let’s face it, you wouldn’t be alone if you get to the end of the day without having had time […]

OK, so today is Mindfulness Day. Happy Mindfulness Day! Unless you’ve been hibernating under a rock for the last year or two, you’ll know that mindfulness is the new cool thing on the block! But, if you’re anything like me, you may have snubbed this ‘airy fairy’ practice, thinking it’s just for hippies, tree huggers, […]

Sounds a bit like the start of X factor doesn’t it? Actually, that’s good. Because an energy makeover might be just what you need to give you that special something right now. If you’re anything like me, whilst I’ve loved the summer of 2018 and it’s abundant sunshine (and I certainly wouldn’t complain), it has […]

When was the last time you looked up at the sky? And I mean actually stopped. Put a blanket on the ground and lay looking up at the actual sky? Not recently huh? I can tell you exactly the last time I did it. I’m ashamed to say it was over 12 years ago. I […]

Ok, strange blog title I know and you must think I’m nuts for even coming up with this topic as a blog post but bear with…. In my downstairs loo at home we have this sign up on the wall. I bought it when on a hen do in York about 5 years ago, simply […]

Well, that’s surely the million dollar question, right? There’s no point in beating around the bush. There is NO magic pill for this. It comes down to pure hard graft. I’m talking about this topic this week because it’s something I struggle with myself and I notice it in many other women too. I’m just […]

Have you ever driven to work, got there, parked the car and thought, I don’t even remember how I got here? A scary thought considering you’ve just been in charge of several tonnes of steel. On the occasions when I do remember my drive in, I’m more likely to remember a great song I heard […]

The short answer to this question is YES, if it is the root cause of your lack of confidence. Not sure? I thought as much. Let’s discuss…. So, you’ve been thinking of having a boob job for a while. You’re lacking a certain something, something has vanished from within you. Maybe it was never there? […]

On Monday this week something happened to me that I haven’t experienced in a long time. And it felt liked I’d been toe pecked right in the fanny! Have you ever been on the receiving end of someone’s behaviour or actions that has left your blood boiling and not known how to deal with it? […]

It’s officially my favourite two weeks of the year! Wimbledon fortnight. I love it. I particularly love watching the singles matches. Especially the Mens games. And no. Not for that reason, naughty. No. I love the speed and variety of the mens game. It’s so exciting when you get a couple of serve/volley players battling […]

This week I thought I’d answer a question that I get asked quite a lot or that I observe as a major frustration when coaching women. That question is….’what do I do if my boss is a dick?’ I use this language because that’s what comes out of people’s mouths. What they really want to […]

I’ve always been a fashion follower rather than a leader. And its cost me a fecking fortune over the years. In my twenties I scoured fashion magazines, searching for the latest looks, wore whatever was ‘on trend’. Whether it suited me or not. In my thirties I went through a bit of a Madonna esq-chameleon […]

We ran our first workshop this week in Manchester. A taster session of our first secret – “You’re Pretty Confident”. After the stress of the proverbial technical ‘set up’ challenges, (goes with the fricken territory!) it went really well. We had 25 women who had a jolly good time (there were cupcakes and cocktails), learnt […]

If, like me, you watched in horror, as the events unfolded in Manchester last Monday, you may have felt an incredible sense of sadness and fear for the future. I was stood in a hotel lobby in Cyprus, surrounded by other people, watching the aftermath on the news. There were many different people there. People […]

I had a brilliant night on Saturday. One of my closet friends invited me to a gin party at her house. And I like gin! It was kind of an Ann Summers type set up (maybe Tupperware would be a better example), you know, a rep comes round and does a bit of shizzle, you […]

Have you ever used this phrase?…   “If I had a quid for every person who asked me that, I’d be a bloody millionaire!”   Yeah, me too. I specifically found myself saying it only yesterday actually whilst having steam coming out of my ears and fire out of my nostrils. Why I hear you […]

Why oh why do we do it to ourselves?   As soon as we hit the ‘stop’ button after our live broadcast last Saturday, we turned to each other and said, “shit, I can’t believe that just happened!” We were, of course, referring to the fact that the technology had let us down. We’d had to massively […]

I’ve been let down a lot this week. People not doing what they promised. Others saying one thing to me, but another to someone else. And the ugliest one, being lied to.   Sounds a bit dramatic now I read it back so let me give you some context. These have all been relatively minor […]

Do something today your future self will thank you for.   A good friend of mine told me a story once about a guy who was, on the surface, extremely successful in every aspect of his life. Happily married, 2 kids, fancy house and a very respectable, highly paid job. Yet when it came to […]

WARNING: this blog contains the F bomb a lot, not because I’m being a potty mouth, because it happens to be the blog topic. So please excuse my French.   Chloe will tell you that when she first met me, 11 years ago, I was a worrier. I gave a fuck about everything! It was […]

Firstly we’d like to say Hi, welcome to Violet and Charlie and thank you for taking the time to read our first official blog.   You probably don’t know that much about us so it seems to make sense to start at the beginning and tell you our “why”.   We believe wholeheartedly in role […]